| "Love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" (Ephesians 5:25) |
Are you a lucky man? Do you feel blessed by the Lord to have such a love for
your wife as mentioned in the verse Ephesians 5:25? Has God blessed you with
your soul mate; does she compliment you with everything she does? I tell you this;
God never make mistakes, she is the perfect wife chosen for you, by God. Chosen
by God, not chosen by you. We are to love our wives in a way that pleases God if
we are to be blessed, and not feel cursed. If you feel cursed, then look to yourself,
you are to blame. Pray on a daily basis, on how, to love your wife like Christ loves
the church. We must ask God for more creative ways to show our wives how much
we love them.
Jesus’ love was without reserve. He gave up everything for the church, even His
very life! His love was everlasting and given before anyone in the church loved
Him. His love was not dependant upon our love for Him. (1 John 4:19) “We love
Him because He first loved us.”
God created the very first marriage. He wants us to love our wives and to serve
Him, He wants us to give ourselves sacrificially like Jesus did for us. Often times
we fin ourselves too busy doing other things, to obey this cardinal command;
husbands love your wife as Christ loves the Church. The Bible tells a husband is to
love his wife as his own body. Let us take a moment to analyze what we do for our
body and how we feel about it. I know you provide physical care for your body
throughout the day. Much of your happiness is dependant upon the health of your
body. A sick body distracts your mind and energies. When your body has a need
or an urge, you are quick to take care of it. Even with sexual urges, the body
quickly takes note, and God gives us a desire, which should to be for our wife, to
care of that need.
Likewise, a husband should care for his wife physically throughout the day,
attending to her needs and providing for her financially. A husband should be so in
tune, with his wife, that he should be able to sense the pain of an illness or rejoice
in her health. A husband must learn all about what she needs, even her sexual
desires, and move to meet those needs. Basically, whatever need or desire a wife
may have, whether it is physical, spiritual, emotional, sexual, it is the husbands job
to make sure those needs are met. No matter what sacrifices need to be made.
The husband is commanded to give her his full attention and make every effort.
In this way he can serve her and love her as he does his own body. Love your
wife in the same way you love your body and yourself. (Ephesians 5:28-33) Be
considerate as you live with your wife. (1st Peter 3:7) This is so important that the
Bible says that if we neglect this command, our prayers will be hindered! Since the
husband has authority over the wife, he must exercise this authority with extreme
caution. Learn how to be considerate of your wife. If there are annoying habits that
you are guilty of, quit them! Whether she needs to be treated like a lady and helped
out of the car, or needs help carrying heavy items, do it! If she needs some time to
herself to take a walk, sleep, or help with the house and family! Do It!
Learn to serve your wife with all of your energy, by pouring your love into her,
with all understanding and consideration. Pray for help to see the blind spots in your
life, where you may be inconsiderate, of your lovely wife. Do not be harsh with
your wife. (Colossians 3:19) Typically men are not the tender, nurturing, or
sensitive ones in the marriage, men tend to lean towards harshness from time to
time. When a wife is living her God-given lady role, she will be sensitive. Realize
that harsh answers, angry looks, irritated tones of voice and impatience will deeply
affect your sensitive wife. Do not be further annoyed by her sensitivities, but rejoice
that she is a lady and is not like you! Don't be harsh with the precious gift God has
given you.
Your body belongs to your wife. (1st Corinthians 7:3-5) This passage is explicit
that we are to use our bodies to please our wives sexually. We are NOT to deprive
her of what she needs. Many women will never tell their husbands their needs in
times of intimacy. Assume that she would like to be intimate and work diligently to
please her, but not like a sex slave. Ironically many men are trapped in situations
where their wives are not providing for their sexual needs. A wife’s desire to
become intimate, with her husband will increase, when she feels loved though out
the day. It is not all about you! Your goal when you and your wife share in the
most intimate act a Christian husband and wife can have is to please her sexually.
With much practice, sharing, and time you can learn to make your wife feel as
good, if not better, than you feel during intimacy! Remember, love is something
that is given, not taken.
Rejoice in your wife. Let her breasts satisfy you. Be captivated with her.
(Proverbs 5:18-19) No man should look at other women or pictures of other women
when he has a wife whom he can gaze upon daily. “A wife should strive to keep
their bodies as attractive as possible, but not letting the world dictate what
attractive means.” A husband should become fully satisfied with his naked wife. He
should let her breasts completely satisfy him in every way. No matter what the size
or shape, if a man will let it happen, and ask God to help him, he can grow to truly
find his wife's breasts to be the most attractive and sexy breasts in the entire
world. This is the true spirit of being captivated with your wife. Just think how your
wife will feel when she truly knows that you find her to be the most wildly attractive
woman in the world and you are nuts for her physical body! Such a wife will feel
sexy, attractive, and most of all, ladylike.
We live in a very sinful and lustful world, so to detour other men from "lusting
after" your wife in public places. (Proverbs 5:16) Encourage your wife to be very
modest in public. Let her know it is alright for her to be erotic in private with you. A
modest woman is a lady. There is much sin and temptation that results from
women showing too much skin in public. Why show the world what should be for
the eyes of their husband only? Just think of the pleasure of knowing that no one
sees your wife's legs but you! When she wears a skimpy outfit for you, you see
things that no one else ever does. You will be shocked at how this one maneuver
will increase your feelings of masculinity and her feelings of femininity.
Do not be captivated by other women (Proverbs 5:20). Finding other women
attractive and looking at them will erode your own view of your wife. Hollywood and
TV are the worst, turn from the nudity and look to your wife, I guarantee she will
notice your efforts. If you do not, nothing good will come from looking at these
harlots of the screen. You will be less satisfied with your wife and she will feel less
special to you. And if you think you only look at women when she isn't around, you
are mistaken. No man can build a habit of glances without subconsciously doing it in
his wife's company. And she will notice. Remember to be captivated with your wife
and no one else. She will feel like the Queen of the world and you will fall further in
love with her.
Praise your wife. (Proverbs 31:28-29) Tell her that she is special. Tell her that
she is greater than any other woman on earth. Be specific. Don't just mention her
physical beauty, but her care for you, her hard work, and her ladylike attributes.
Watch the flower of your wife blossom as you repeatedly fill her ears with your
praises. She longs for those words and she wants to hear them from you! Of
course I am not trying to cultivate pride here, because we all recognize our utter
sinfulness, but that does not obviate the woman's need and longing to be treasured.
Tell your wife how captivated you are with her body (Song of Solomon 4:7; 7:1-8)
A true lover will make sure that his wife knows that he finds NO FLAW in her. Men,
if you find a certain part of your wife unattractive and she knows it, she will be
embarrassed of that part and it is your responsibility to gradually undo the damage
you have done here. Fall in love with every single part of her body like Solomon did
with his betrothed. God made your wife. God makes no mistakes. If you find a part
of her body flawed, then it is your mind that needs to be changed.
This does not let the wives off the hook to let their bodies go to pot! But it puts
the responsibility upon the man to grow to love every part of his wife and then to
sensitively tell her how he feels. Think of how good she will feel when she truly
believes that you are delighted with every part of her!
Honor your marriage; keep it pure by remaining true to your wife in every way
(Hebrews 13:4) Jesus says that lustful looks are adultery (Matthew 5:28). Keep
your marriage pure by training your heart and eyes to be solidly true to your wife.
Your marriage will reap huge benefits if you do! Be thankful for your wife and
realize the favor you have received from God. (Proverbs 18:22) A wife is a blessing
from God. Just think of how lonely you would be without a wife. Adam was alone
and it wasn't good for him to be alone, so God gave him a wife. You have a lifetime
companion, a friend, and a lover to enjoy every day. What a blessing! Thank God
for her daily. Pray for her. She is a tremendous gift from God. Be "one flesh" with
your wife in every way. (Matthew 19:5)
Enjoy life with her as if you were inseparable. Do not do what most couples do and
live together but lead separate lives. Long to be with her like you did when you first
met. Rush home from work. Think about her during the day. Call her. Learn as a
couple to agree on more and more issues. Be like minded. Enjoy intimacy very
often which could be simply holding, hugging, and kissing. Spend a lot of time
alone, just talking and sharing the day's events. Show a genuine interest in each
other by listening intently, giving your full attention and eye contact. Your wife is
more important than anything or anyone but Jesus Christ. Be one with your wife.
Let us now pray brothers:
your wife as mentioned in the verse Ephesians 5:25? Has God blessed you with
your soul mate; does she compliment you with everything she does? I tell you this;
God never make mistakes, she is the perfect wife chosen for you, by God. Chosen
by God, not chosen by you. We are to love our wives in a way that pleases God if
we are to be blessed, and not feel cursed. If you feel cursed, then look to yourself,
you are to blame. Pray on a daily basis, on how, to love your wife like Christ loves
the church. We must ask God for more creative ways to show our wives how much
we love them.
Jesus’ love was without reserve. He gave up everything for the church, even His
very life! His love was everlasting and given before anyone in the church loved
Him. His love was not dependant upon our love for Him. (1 John 4:19) “We love
Him because He first loved us.”
God created the very first marriage. He wants us to love our wives and to serve
Him, He wants us to give ourselves sacrificially like Jesus did for us. Often times
we fin ourselves too busy doing other things, to obey this cardinal command;
husbands love your wife as Christ loves the Church. The Bible tells a husband is to
love his wife as his own body. Let us take a moment to analyze what we do for our
body and how we feel about it. I know you provide physical care for your body
throughout the day. Much of your happiness is dependant upon the health of your
body. A sick body distracts your mind and energies. When your body has a need
or an urge, you are quick to take care of it. Even with sexual urges, the body
quickly takes note, and God gives us a desire, which should to be for our wife, to
care of that need.
Likewise, a husband should care for his wife physically throughout the day,
attending to her needs and providing for her financially. A husband should be so in
tune, with his wife, that he should be able to sense the pain of an illness or rejoice
in her health. A husband must learn all about what she needs, even her sexual
desires, and move to meet those needs. Basically, whatever need or desire a wife
may have, whether it is physical, spiritual, emotional, sexual, it is the husbands job
to make sure those needs are met. No matter what sacrifices need to be made.
The husband is commanded to give her his full attention and make every effort.
In this way he can serve her and love her as he does his own body. Love your
wife in the same way you love your body and yourself. (Ephesians 5:28-33) Be
considerate as you live with your wife. (1st Peter 3:7) This is so important that the
Bible says that if we neglect this command, our prayers will be hindered! Since the
husband has authority over the wife, he must exercise this authority with extreme
caution. Learn how to be considerate of your wife. If there are annoying habits that
you are guilty of, quit them! Whether she needs to be treated like a lady and helped
out of the car, or needs help carrying heavy items, do it! If she needs some time to
herself to take a walk, sleep, or help with the house and family! Do It!
Learn to serve your wife with all of your energy, by pouring your love into her,
with all understanding and consideration. Pray for help to see the blind spots in your
life, where you may be inconsiderate, of your lovely wife. Do not be harsh with
your wife. (Colossians 3:19) Typically men are not the tender, nurturing, or
sensitive ones in the marriage, men tend to lean towards harshness from time to
time. When a wife is living her God-given lady role, she will be sensitive. Realize
that harsh answers, angry looks, irritated tones of voice and impatience will deeply
affect your sensitive wife. Do not be further annoyed by her sensitivities, but rejoice
that she is a lady and is not like you! Don't be harsh with the precious gift God has
given you.
Your body belongs to your wife. (1st Corinthians 7:3-5) This passage is explicit
that we are to use our bodies to please our wives sexually. We are NOT to deprive
her of what she needs. Many women will never tell their husbands their needs in
times of intimacy. Assume that she would like to be intimate and work diligently to
please her, but not like a sex slave. Ironically many men are trapped in situations
where their wives are not providing for their sexual needs. A wife’s desire to
become intimate, with her husband will increase, when she feels loved though out
the day. It is not all about you! Your goal when you and your wife share in the
most intimate act a Christian husband and wife can have is to please her sexually.
With much practice, sharing, and time you can learn to make your wife feel as
good, if not better, than you feel during intimacy! Remember, love is something
that is given, not taken.
Rejoice in your wife. Let her breasts satisfy you. Be captivated with her.
(Proverbs 5:18-19) No man should look at other women or pictures of other women
when he has a wife whom he can gaze upon daily. “A wife should strive to keep
their bodies as attractive as possible, but not letting the world dictate what
attractive means.” A husband should become fully satisfied with his naked wife. He
should let her breasts completely satisfy him in every way. No matter what the size
or shape, if a man will let it happen, and ask God to help him, he can grow to truly
find his wife's breasts to be the most attractive and sexy breasts in the entire
world. This is the true spirit of being captivated with your wife. Just think how your
wife will feel when she truly knows that you find her to be the most wildly attractive
woman in the world and you are nuts for her physical body! Such a wife will feel
sexy, attractive, and most of all, ladylike.
We live in a very sinful and lustful world, so to detour other men from "lusting
after" your wife in public places. (Proverbs 5:16) Encourage your wife to be very
modest in public. Let her know it is alright for her to be erotic in private with you. A
modest woman is a lady. There is much sin and temptation that results from
women showing too much skin in public. Why show the world what should be for
the eyes of their husband only? Just think of the pleasure of knowing that no one
sees your wife's legs but you! When she wears a skimpy outfit for you, you see
things that no one else ever does. You will be shocked at how this one maneuver
will increase your feelings of masculinity and her feelings of femininity.
Do not be captivated by other women (Proverbs 5:20). Finding other women
attractive and looking at them will erode your own view of your wife. Hollywood and
TV are the worst, turn from the nudity and look to your wife, I guarantee she will
notice your efforts. If you do not, nothing good will come from looking at these
harlots of the screen. You will be less satisfied with your wife and she will feel less
special to you. And if you think you only look at women when she isn't around, you
are mistaken. No man can build a habit of glances without subconsciously doing it in
his wife's company. And she will notice. Remember to be captivated with your wife
and no one else. She will feel like the Queen of the world and you will fall further in
love with her.
Praise your wife. (Proverbs 31:28-29) Tell her that she is special. Tell her that
she is greater than any other woman on earth. Be specific. Don't just mention her
physical beauty, but her care for you, her hard work, and her ladylike attributes.
Watch the flower of your wife blossom as you repeatedly fill her ears with your
praises. She longs for those words and she wants to hear them from you! Of
course I am not trying to cultivate pride here, because we all recognize our utter
sinfulness, but that does not obviate the woman's need and longing to be treasured.
Tell your wife how captivated you are with her body (Song of Solomon 4:7; 7:1-8)
A true lover will make sure that his wife knows that he finds NO FLAW in her. Men,
if you find a certain part of your wife unattractive and she knows it, she will be
embarrassed of that part and it is your responsibility to gradually undo the damage
you have done here. Fall in love with every single part of her body like Solomon did
with his betrothed. God made your wife. God makes no mistakes. If you find a part
of her body flawed, then it is your mind that needs to be changed.
This does not let the wives off the hook to let their bodies go to pot! But it puts
the responsibility upon the man to grow to love every part of his wife and then to
sensitively tell her how he feels. Think of how good she will feel when she truly
believes that you are delighted with every part of her!
Honor your marriage; keep it pure by remaining true to your wife in every way
(Hebrews 13:4) Jesus says that lustful looks are adultery (Matthew 5:28). Keep
your marriage pure by training your heart and eyes to be solidly true to your wife.
Your marriage will reap huge benefits if you do! Be thankful for your wife and
realize the favor you have received from God. (Proverbs 18:22) A wife is a blessing
from God. Just think of how lonely you would be without a wife. Adam was alone
and it wasn't good for him to be alone, so God gave him a wife. You have a lifetime
companion, a friend, and a lover to enjoy every day. What a blessing! Thank God
for her daily. Pray for her. She is a tremendous gift from God. Be "one flesh" with
your wife in every way. (Matthew 19:5)
Enjoy life with her as if you were inseparable. Do not do what most couples do and
live together but lead separate lives. Long to be with her like you did when you first
met. Rush home from work. Think about her during the day. Call her. Learn as a
couple to agree on more and more issues. Be like minded. Enjoy intimacy very
often which could be simply holding, hugging, and kissing. Spend a lot of time
alone, just talking and sharing the day's events. Show a genuine interest in each
other by listening intently, giving your full attention and eye contact. Your wife is
more important than anything or anyone but Jesus Christ. Be one with your wife.
Let us now pray brothers:
| By Rev. Mark E. Vatcher |
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