| The Perfect Wife By Pennie Vatcher |
| Websters defines the word perfect in many ways: Do any of these sound like you? Complete in all respects (Hardly) Without defect (Yeah right) Flawless (Who me?) In condition of complete excellence (Are you kidding?) Pure (Maybe sometimes) Faultless (So we say to our husbands) Having all the qualities necessary (Well no!) This last definition is the one I want focus our attention on.This definition gives us pause for thought: Having all the qualities necessary to assure your husband that you are the perfect wife for him. We all know that we are not perfect, and our husbands know it too. But it is possible to keep them so happy that they think of us the perfect wife. We can accomplish this the same way we honor God, through the New Testament principle of servant hood: |
| Galatians 5:13-14 For you brethren, have called to liberty: only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For all the law is fulfilled in one work, even in this:You shall love your neighbor as yourself. |
We need to become servants for Jesus sake. This does not mean we become
our husbands slave, it means that if we want to become his perfect wife, we
need to always have the attitude of thinking about him. How can I please my
husband today? But, first and foremost we must seek the Lord and desire to
please Him in everything we do. By loving our husbands, and meeting his needs,
we become pleasing in the sight of God.
our husbands slave, it means that if we want to become his perfect wife, we
need to always have the attitude of thinking about him. How can I please my
husband today? But, first and foremost we must seek the Lord and desire to
please Him in everything we do. By loving our husbands, and meeting his needs,
we become pleasing in the sight of God.
| Peter 3:1-4 In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that Even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won Without a word by the behavior of their wives, As they observe your chase and respectful behavior. And let not your adornment be merely external braiding of the hair, And wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses: But let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the Imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is Precious in the sight of God. |
For more on submission read my
lesson on The Virtuous Wife
In the words of Proverbs 31, this kind of wife will do her husband good and not
evil all the days of her life. We need to have the attitude that our husband is
the king of our household and the king of our marriage. Next to the Lord, he is
the one we should want to please the most. He is our top priority, right after
Christ.
All too often women get their priorities mixed up, and put their children ahead
of their husbands. The problem with this is: When women put their children
ahead of the husband, and the children grow up and leave the home, the
husband and wife have no basis for communication with each other. Have you
ever heard of the empty nest syndrome? This happens because the wife had
her priorities out of line with Gods plan for the family. The wife poured all the
love and attention into the children, instead of her husband, and lost not only
the intimate relationship God had intended for her, but also the opportunity to
teach her children about love, respect, honor, and even how to be affectionate
themselves. The best thing you can do for your children is to demonstrate
agape love to their father.
Our children observe and absorb our actions and attitudes. Believe me they
watch our every move. If they see that your desire is to please your husband,
they will themselves will grow up, and have a marriage full of love and
happiness.
Do you know what the top five needs of your husband are? There is a great
Christian book out there called His Needs Her Needs, if you haven't read it, I
encourage you to do so. This book states the ten most important needs of a
man and a woman. Our Lord has a sense of humor, so wouldn't you know it,
that the top five needs of a man are typically the last five needs of a woman.
I will list the top ten needs and I would like you to test yourself on how well
you know your husband. Write down your answers, then give the list to your
husband and ask him to prioritize his needs. One being the most important and
ten being the least. Compare your list to see how you did.
1. Affection
2. Domestic Support
3. Financial Stability
4. Family Commitment
5. An Attractive Spouse
6. Sex
7. Recreational Companion
8. Openness and Honesty
9. Communication
10. Admiration
After receiving his list, your goal is to try and meet his needs on a daily basis
for the next thirty days. It will not be easy, but with God all things are possible.
You will begin to see a change in your marriage, a change that you never
thought possible, because your husband will feel loved like he has never been
loved before, and in turn he will begin to love you like you need.
If God came down and set in your hand a precious gift, lets say it is a rare
flower, what would you do with it? Would you act like you did not care about it,
would you neglect your gift from the Lord? Never pay attention to it, never
water or nurture it? Would you leave it out in the hot sun to die? No way! You
would take special care of that gift; you would tend to it every day and make
sure it had everything it needed. This is how we are to treat our husbands, as a
precious gift from our Lord.
I have been blessed beyond measure in my marriage, and I have the best
husband in the world for me. He is my gift from the Lord. God has given me a
husband that has all the qualities I needed in a man. The Lord knew because of
my background and history I need a strong man of faith. I needed a man with
the integrity of Joseph which is unwavering. My husband loves and cherishes
me; he has eyes for no other. Why? Because of the love he feels from me.
Every morning I start off my day adoring and loving my Lord, and my husband.
He is always in my thoughts and my desire is to bless him with my actions. It
is the most beautiful cycle of love. The more I please my husband, the more
he is eager to please me. The more he attempts to please me, the more
satisfied and happy I am in my marriage, and in turn the more I try to do things
to make him happy. This is a glorious cycle of love. We desire to please each
other, not so we will get something in return, but because we truly love each
other, the way God intended. We esteem the other better than ourselves.
lesson on The Virtuous Wife
In the words of Proverbs 31, this kind of wife will do her husband good and not
evil all the days of her life. We need to have the attitude that our husband is
the king of our household and the king of our marriage. Next to the Lord, he is
the one we should want to please the most. He is our top priority, right after
Christ.
All too often women get their priorities mixed up, and put their children ahead
of their husbands. The problem with this is: When women put their children
ahead of the husband, and the children grow up and leave the home, the
husband and wife have no basis for communication with each other. Have you
ever heard of the empty nest syndrome? This happens because the wife had
her priorities out of line with Gods plan for the family. The wife poured all the
love and attention into the children, instead of her husband, and lost not only
the intimate relationship God had intended for her, but also the opportunity to
teach her children about love, respect, honor, and even how to be affectionate
themselves. The best thing you can do for your children is to demonstrate
agape love to their father.
Our children observe and absorb our actions and attitudes. Believe me they
watch our every move. If they see that your desire is to please your husband,
they will themselves will grow up, and have a marriage full of love and
happiness.
Do you know what the top five needs of your husband are? There is a great
Christian book out there called His Needs Her Needs, if you haven't read it, I
encourage you to do so. This book states the ten most important needs of a
man and a woman. Our Lord has a sense of humor, so wouldn't you know it,
that the top five needs of a man are typically the last five needs of a woman.
I will list the top ten needs and I would like you to test yourself on how well
you know your husband. Write down your answers, then give the list to your
husband and ask him to prioritize his needs. One being the most important and
ten being the least. Compare your list to see how you did.
1. Affection
2. Domestic Support
3. Financial Stability
4. Family Commitment
5. An Attractive Spouse
6. Sex
7. Recreational Companion
8. Openness and Honesty
9. Communication
10. Admiration
After receiving his list, your goal is to try and meet his needs on a daily basis
for the next thirty days. It will not be easy, but with God all things are possible.
You will begin to see a change in your marriage, a change that you never
thought possible, because your husband will feel loved like he has never been
loved before, and in turn he will begin to love you like you need.
If God came down and set in your hand a precious gift, lets say it is a rare
flower, what would you do with it? Would you act like you did not care about it,
would you neglect your gift from the Lord? Never pay attention to it, never
water or nurture it? Would you leave it out in the hot sun to die? No way! You
would take special care of that gift; you would tend to it every day and make
sure it had everything it needed. This is how we are to treat our husbands, as a
precious gift from our Lord.
I have been blessed beyond measure in my marriage, and I have the best
husband in the world for me. He is my gift from the Lord. God has given me a
husband that has all the qualities I needed in a man. The Lord knew because of
my background and history I need a strong man of faith. I needed a man with
the integrity of Joseph which is unwavering. My husband loves and cherishes
me; he has eyes for no other. Why? Because of the love he feels from me.
Every morning I start off my day adoring and loving my Lord, and my husband.
He is always in my thoughts and my desire is to bless him with my actions. It
is the most beautiful cycle of love. The more I please my husband, the more
he is eager to please me. The more he attempts to please me, the more
satisfied and happy I am in my marriage, and in turn the more I try to do things
to make him happy. This is a glorious cycle of love. We desire to please each
other, not so we will get something in return, but because we truly love each
other, the way God intended. We esteem the other better than ourselves.
| Philippians 2:3-4 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit,but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests,but for the interests of others. |
Behind every good man is a good woman. A man becomes what God intended
him to be when his wife is there, by his side, encouraging and building him up,
through love. Your husband will see you as the perfect wife, the perfect wife
for him, if you die to yourself, live for Christ, and live to please the man God
gave you. There is nothing more pleasing to the Lord than a marriage based
on self sacrificing love for one another.
him to be when his wife is there, by his side, encouraging and building him up,
through love. Your husband will see you as the perfect wife, the perfect wife
for him, if you die to yourself, live for Christ, and live to please the man God
gave you. There is nothing more pleasing to the Lord than a marriage based
on self sacrificing love for one another.
| Lord God, You are Awesome and Holy, I love You! Thank you for everything You have given me, especially my husband. Jesus I come before You, asking You to change me. Help me to be the wife You have called me to be, I know that I do not have the power to do this by myself, I need You Lord, fill me with Your Holy Spirit, and put the desire in my heart to become the Perfect wife my husband needs. Take away my selfish thoughts and prideful heart, Fill my heart, with the same agape love You have for me, And let me pour out that love into my marriage. Lord I ask You, to give my husband a new wife, And let it be me! In Your precious name I pray, Amen |
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